A Happy Union With Wife And Child

Be Strict With Yourself But Least Reproachful Of Others And Complaint Is Kept Afar.

The Superior Man, While His Parents Are Alive, Reverently Nourishes Them; And, When They Are Dead, Reverently Sacrifices To Them. His Thought To The End Of His Life Is How Not To Disgrace Them.

Tzu Chang Asked Confucius About Jen. Confucius Said, "if You Can Practice These Five Things With All The People, You Can Be Called Jen." Tzu Chang Asked What They Were. Confucius Said, "courtesy, Generosity, Honesty, Persistence, And Kindness. If You Are Courteous, You Will Not Be Disrespected; If You Are Generous, You Will Gain Everything. If You Are Honest, People Will Rely On You. If You Are Persistent You Will Get Results. If You Are Kind, You Can Employ People.

To Lead Uninstructed People To War Is To Throw Them Away.

The Master Said Of Gong Yechang, “he Is Marriageable. Although He Was Once Imprisoned And Branded As A Criminal, He Was In Fact Innocent Of Any Crime.” The Master Gave Him His Daughter In Marriage. (analects 5.1)