A Soft Answer Turns Away Anger.

Very Few Alcoholics Get Into A Treatment Program Until They Are At The End Of The Rope, Often When They Feel Like They Are About To Lose Something That Is Important To Them, Namely A Wife Or Their Family. The Same Is True With Those Who Are Physically And Verbally Abusive.

We Cannot Rely On Our Native Tongue If Our Spouse Does Not Understand It. If We Want Them To Feel The Love We Are Trying To Communicate, We Must Express It In His Or Her Primary Love Language.

Our Most Basic Emotional Need Is Not To Fall In Love But To Be Genuinely Loved By Another, To Know A Love That Grows Out Of Reason And Choice, Not Instinct. I Need To Be Loved By Someone Who Chooses To Love Me, Who Sees In Me Something Worth Loving.

I Wrote This Book [ Desperate Marriages] Because Of My Own Marriage. My Wife And I Struggled Greatly In The Early Years Of Marriage. In Spite Of The Fact That We Were Christians Before We Got Married, We Prayed About Getting Married, We Believed It Was God's Will For Us To Get Married, And We Still Had Great Struggles.

All Of Us Blossom When We Feel Loved And Wither When We Do Not Feel Loved.