By Not Caring Too Much About What

The Goal...is Not To Change Your Desires And Wishes But To Persuade You To Stop Demanding That You Absolutely Must Have What You Wish-from Yourself, From Others, And From The World. You Can By All Means Keep Your Wishes, Preferences, And Desires, But Unless You Prefer To Remain Needlessly Anxious, Not Your Grandiose Demands.

I Wrote Several Articles Criticizing Psychoanalysis, But The Analysts Weren't Listening To My Objections. So I Finally Quit After Practicing It For Six Years.

People Are Terrified Of Other People Or Difficult Projects Because They Tell Themselves That They Could Fail Or Be Rejected. Failure Can Lead To Sorrow, Regret, Frustration And Annoyance-all Healthy Feelings Without Which People Couldn't Exist.

I Started To Call Myself A Rational Therapist In 1955; Later I Used The Term Rational Emotive. Now I Call Myself A Rational Emotive Behavior Therapist.

When People Change Their Irrational Beliefs To Undogmatic Flexible Preferences, They Become Less Disturbed.