Love Is A Choice You Make Everyday.

Before I Discovered The Concept Of The 5 Love Languages, A Bit Of Advice I Was Given Was To Become A Student Of My Wife And To Take Time To Learn What Makes Her Feel Loved. I Soon Learned That What Makes Her Feel Loved May Not Always Be The Thing I Want To Do Because It May Not Come Natural To Me. But Learning To Love Her In The Way That Makes Her Feel Loved Is A Greater Demonstration Of My Love For Her, Because I've Chosen To Do It With A Goal Of Pleasing Her.

I Hope The Reader's Sense That I Am Deeply Empathetic With The Pain Of Being In A Desperate Marriage, But I Also Believe That The Person Who Is Married To The Abuser Or The Alcoholic Or Whomever Has The Greatest Potential For Helping Them.

Very Few Alcoholics Get Into A Treatment Program Until They Are At The End Of The Rope, Often When They Feel Like They Are About To Lose Something That Is Important To Them, Namely A Wife Or Their Family. The Same Is True With Those Who Are Physically And Verbally Abusive.

People Tend To Criticize Their Spouse Most Loudly In The Area Where They Themselves Have The Deepest Emotional Need.

True Love Cannot Begin Until The "in Love" Experience Has Run It's Course.