Not Everyone Wants To Be Sexy Everyday,

I Never Went To College And I Was Raised In Arkansas So There Wasn't A Lot Of Academic Language Being Thrown Around My House. We Weren't Idiots, But I Didn't Have That Access To Academic Feminism. I Had To Realize, On My Own, That Feminism Is Not Just About How Far Ahead You Can Get In A Job And It Isn't About Not Wearing Makeup. It Isn't About Not Watching Your Waistline. I Had To Recreate The World Entirely.

I Grew Up With The Motto Of "they Can't Kill You And Eat You," And I Still Think That's Right. You Sure As Hell Can't! When It Comes To Speaking About My Body Makes Other People Uncomfortable But It Doesn't Make Me Uncomfortable. It Makes Them Think More About Themselves Than It Makes Them Judge Me. I've Always Had This Body And Had To Live With It. I've Never Been A Little Thing. I've Been Smaller But I've Never Been Small, Even As A Baby. I've Never Had That Window Into That Kind Of World Where People Only Talk To You Because You're Conventionally Sexy.

I Was Overcome By The Holy Ghost One Time, But In A Baptist Way. I Was Six Or Seven, And I Was Saved. I Just Cried And Cried. It Was Joy!

When You See A Fantastic Colour Or Cut In A Magazine, Perched Up On Some Famous So-and-so's Head, It's Tempting To Ask Your Stylist For The Same, But Do Not Be Fooled. The Hair In Those Fancy Photos Can Be Very High Maintenance.

When I Moved Out Of My Mom's House At 18 I Was Almost As Sad To Leave Her Sewing Machine Behind As Anything Else.