One Can Only Remember What Has Been

Sadism Is Not An Infectious Disease That Strikes A Person All Of A Sudden. It Has A Long Prehistory In Childhood And Always Originates In The Desperate Fantasies Of A Child Who Is Searching For A Way Out Of A Hopeless Situation.

Ultimately The Body Will Rebel. Even If It Can Be Temporarily Pacified With The Help Of Drugs, Cigarettes Or Medicine, It Usually Has The Last Word Because It Is Quicker To See Through Self-deception Than The Mind. We May Ignore Or Deride The Messages Of The Body, But Its Rebellion Demands To Be Heeded Because Its Language Is The Authentic Expression Of Our True Selves And Of The Strength Of Our Vitality.

Many People Suffer All Their Lives From This Oppressive Feeling Of Guilt, The Sense Of Not Having Lived Up To Their Parents' Expectations. This Feeling Is Stronger Than Any Intellectual Insight They Might Have, That It Is Not A Child's Task Or Duty To Satisfy His Parents Needs. No Argument Can Overcome These Guilt Feelings, For They Have Their Beginnings In Life's Earliest Periods, And From That They Derive Their Intensity And Obduracy.

Regression To The Stage Of Early Infancy Is Not A Suitable Method In And Of Itself. Such A Regression Can Only Be Effective If It Happens In The Natural Course Of Therapy And If The Client Is Able To Maintain Adult Consciousness At The Same Time.

It Was Not The Beautiful Or Pleasant Feelings That Gave Me New Insight, But The Ones Against Which I Fought Most Strongly: Feelings That Made Me Experience Myself As Shabby, Petty, Mean, Helpless, Humiliated, Demanding, Resentful Or Confused, And Above All, Sad And Lonely. It Was Precisely Through These Experiences, Which I Had Shunned For So Long, That I Became Certain That I Now Understood Something About My Life, Stemming From The Core Of My Being, Something That I Could Not Have Learned From Any Book.