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We All Have Our Scars. That's What Falling Is Love Is All About: Revealing Your Scars To Somebody Who Then Loves You Anyway.

It's Going To Take Generations Of Gay People Marrying Before These Things Start To Feel Natural. We Haven't Had It Long Enough To Remake It As Our Own, So It Does Feel Like You're Getting Dressed Up In Straight Drag To Do It.

Pride Became This Dogma Which Meant You Couldn't Criticize Anything Gay - If You Were The Least Bit Critical Of Gay Culture Or People Or Any Gay Person Doing Any Gay Thing, That Was An Insufficient Display Of Pride. You Were Suffering From Internalized Homophobia. As Opposed To External Homophobia.

Oftentimes, When People Write Me 4,000-word Letters, I Write Them Back And Tell Them If Their Problem's That Complicated, They Probably Need A Lawyer Or A Cop, And Not Me.

If Sex Isn't An Important Part Of Your Marriage, You Can't Beef If Your Wife Or Husband Does This Unimportant Thing With Somebody Else Every Once In A While, If You Have No Interest In It.