You Mainly Feel The Way You Think.

It Is Only In Your Mind That You Have To Excel, At Anything Or Everything. Of Course, It Would Be Very Nice To Excel At Most Things. Indeed, We Recommend That You Try And Do Your Best. But Realistically, You Are Entitled To Do The Bare Minimum To Get By. All Your Accomplishments Are Just A Bonus, Something To Enjoy, Not Requirements. You Don't Have To Do Anything To Prove That You Are Worthy Of Existing.

There Are Three Musts That Hold Us Back: "i Must Do Well. You Must Treat Me Well. And The World Must Be Easy." And I Sometimes Think That As Long As We Keep The Second Must, Which Is Socially Learned, Then Some Screwballs 100 Years From Now Will Manufacture Atomic Bombs In Their Bathtub And Maybe Annihilate The Whole Human Race Because They Demand That The Rest Of The World Must Agree With Their Dogmas. When We Don't Agree, They May Zap Us.

Much Of What We Call Emotion Is Nothing More Or Less Than A Certain Kind - A Biased, Prejudiced, Or Strongly Evaluative Kind - Of Thought.

I Regret That I've Been So Busy With Clinical Work That I Haven't Been Able To Spend Much Time On Experiments And Outcome Studies.

This, Perhaps, Goes To Show That Conditional Self-esteem, As I Have Said For Many Years, Is An Insidious, Real Sickness, So Much So That Even Buddhists Carelessly Sneak It In And Sometimes Encourage Their Clients To Achieve It.