Most People Who Have Survived Abuse Have

Healthy Shame Is An Emotion That Teaches Us About Our Limits. Like All Emotions, Shame Moves Us To Get Our Basic Needs Met.

Chronically Dysfunctioning Families Are Also Delusional. Delusion Is Sincere Denial.

Our Beliefs Create The Kind Of World We Believe In. We Project Our Feelings, Thoughts And Attitudes Onto The World. I Can Create A Different World By Changing My Belief About The World. Our Inner State Creates The Outer And Not Vice Versa.

To Be Shame-bound Means That Whenever You Feel Any Feeling, Need Or Drive, You Immediately Feel Ashamed. The Dynamic Core Of Your Human Life Is Grounded In Your Feelings, Needs And Drives. When These Are Bound By Shame, You Are Shamed To The Core.

Children Need Parents Who Model Self-discipline Rather Than Preach It. They Learn From What Their Parents Are Actually Willing To Do; Not From What They Say They Do.