We Have To Stop This Idea That

I Mean, If I Was Living To Please People, I'd Have Never Been In A Band At All. I Wouldn't Have Anything Awesome Around. I'd Just Be Bored.

Because I Didn't Have Any Queer, Lesbian, Female Role Models I Hated My Own Femininity And Had To Look Deep Within Myself To Create An Identity That Worked For Me. Pop Culture Just Doesn't Hand Us Enough Variety To Choose From.

When I Was A Teenager I Would Lock Myself In The Bathroom For Hours, Bouffanting My Hair Like Patty Duke And Trying To Recreate Barbra Streisand's Flawless Eyeliner, Only To Comb It All Out And Wash It All Off Before Stepping Out Into The World A Butchish Bisexual Teen.

I Said To My Teacher, 'i Can't Be A Singer Because I'm Not Pretty Enough, And I'm Fat.' And She Looked At Me And Said, 'tell That To Nell Carter, Babe.' That Changed My Life Forever!

In Moments When I Question If I Should Be Having Kids, I Think Of All Those Phone Calls From My Sister-in-law, In Which, 3,000 Miles Away, I Hear My Nephews Screaming For Her Attention. I Tell Her I Have To Go Because I Am Packing To Leave For Europe, And Her Tone Flatlines: "that Must Be Nice."