When Caught In Conflict And Blame -

True Refuge Is That Which Allows Us To Be At Home, At Peace, To Discover True Happiness. The Only Thing That Can Give Us True Refuge Is The Awareness And Love That Is Intrinsic To Who We Are. Ultimately, Its Our Own True Nature.

If Attachment Then Carries Forward In A Way That's Not Healthy, We Need To Let It Be There Without Making It Wrong And Bring As Compassionate And Honest Attention To It As Possible. Honor That This Is Part Of Being Human, But It's Important To Know When It's Getting In The Way.

Most Of Us Grew Up With A Very Damaging Story That Something Is Wrong With Us. Gradually - Or As In My Case, Suddenly - We Become Resolved Not To Believe This Anymore. It Takes A Dedicated Practice To Follow Up On That Resolution, Because The Conditioning Is Very Strong To Keep Generating Self-demeaning Stories.

Where Desire Ends Up Causing Suffering Is When It Fixates.

No Matter What Feeling Comes Up - Numbness, Irritability, Shame - If I Let It Arise And Play Itself Through, I Naturally Open Into Wakefulness And Care.