Worrying About Dying Will Hardly Help You

You Mainly Feel The Way You Think.

The Freudian Tradition Will Never Completely Die Because It Has A Few Good Points. For Example, People Have Motives And Thoughts Of Which They Are Unaware. Most Of Cognitive Therapy Has Now Adopted A Similar Idea. On The Other Hand, The Relationship Part Of Psychoanalysis - Where You Must Have A Deep, Emotional Relationship With The Client - Will, I Think, Get Kicked In The Teeth One Of These Days.

Convince Yourself That Worrying About Many Situations Will Make Them Worse Rather Than Improve Them.

When I Started To Get Disillusioned With Psychoanalysis I Reread Philosophy And Was Reminded Of The Constructivist Notion That Epictetus Had Proposed 2,000 Years Ago: "people Are Disturbed Not By Events That Happen To Them, But By Their View Of Them." I Could See How That Applied To Many Of My Clients.

People Are Terrified Of Other People Or Difficult Projects Because They Tell Themselves That They Could Fail Or Be Rejected. Failure Can Lead To Sorrow, Regret, Frustration And Annoyance - All Healthy, Negative Feelings Without Which People Couldn't Exist. But Then They Add, "i Absolutely Must Succeed And Must Be Loved By Significant Persons, And If I Don't, It's Terrible And I'm No Good." Those Are Irrational Beliefs. As Long As People Keep Them, They'll Be Terrified Of Life And Will Put Themselves Down When They Get Rejected.